Everyone I know wants to be more popular or desirable-usually with the
opposite sex or at least in business…
Beer is a staple for the 4th of
July celebrations and
83% of Americans say it is a part of celebrating our freedom along with a
backyard BBQ. 75 percent of Americans
say making great beer is part of America’s heritage [ironically, Bud light is
the favorite brew but it’s owned by a firm in Brussels and was the deal was
financed by a firm from Brazil]. The
sound of the clink of a glass or two beer bottles tapped together in a toast is
emotional music to our ears! So of
course, although I must encourage you to be safe in your consumption, I’m
sharing a few ideas today on how you can become more popular.
Below, I've listed 12 ways you can
become more charismatic and get more out of your relationships…perhaps
better business, family or even dating.
I was brought up with the cardinal rule of always seek out ways in which
you can do something for others [essentially, the Golden Rule, something which
seems to have been lost among many citizens].
These are "rules" I try to follow in dealing with people. (Some of them are based on principles identified by Robert Cialdini in his book Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion.)
1. People tend to do business with people they like. So, behave in a way that makes you likable. Be polite and patient. Avoid being crude, rude, gruff, or impatient.
2. People are attracted to people who keep their word. That means when you make a promise, do exactly what you promised. Do it by the deadline you promised – or sooner.
3. People trust people who have their best interests at heart. They will think you have their best interests at heart when you give them advice that benefits them as much as, or more than, it benefits you.
4. People want to do business with people who are experts in their fields. So, become an expert in your field through practice, research, training, education, and study. As you acquire that expertise, share it. Give speeches, and write articles and books. Be generous with your knowledge. Know that in doing so, you are demonstrating your expertise.
5. People feel comfortable giving money to people who are authentic and honest. (That means you must be honest, frank, ethical, and aboveboard.) Believe that telling the truth is more powerful than lying, even when the lies are mendacities by omission.
6. People are attracted to people who are attractive. You don't have to get plastic surgery, but you can eat right, exercise, dress well, and be well-groomed. And pay attention to your personal hygiene.
7. People feel better with people who seem to be "real." The best way to do that is to admit your shortcomings when they are evident. When the conversation turns to a subject about which you know next to nothing, admit it.
8. People respond to people who listen and pay attention to what they are saying. Remember the old cliché: You have two ears and one mouth because you should listen twice as much as you talk.
9. People feel comfortable with people who are like them. The trick here is to identify what you have in common with the other person. It could be golf, kids, pets, or anything else. Then use that to cement a bond between you.
10. People are attracted to people who are humble. So don't brag about your successes. You can mention them, but don't brag. If someone brings them up, downplay them. Switch the topic as soon as possible to the other person.
11. People tend to value people who are in demand. That's why you should never tell a prospective customer that things are slow and you really need his business. Think about doctors. How would you feel if you walked into a doctor's office and you were the only patient? Wouldn't you wonder how good he was? As much as you hate it when you have to sit there and wait, don't you feel more assured when a doctor's waiting room is packed? Of course you do.
12. People want to be surrounded by helpful people – people who make their lives easier and save them time. So make it a personal policy to attend to the needs of others – even when your purpose is to help yourself.
Which of these people-pleasing skills do you have already?
Congratulate yourself for acquiring them, and practice them more.
These are "rules" I try to follow in dealing with people. (Some of them are based on principles identified by Robert Cialdini in his book Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion.)
1. People tend to do business with people they like. So, behave in a way that makes you likable. Be polite and patient. Avoid being crude, rude, gruff, or impatient.
2. People are attracted to people who keep their word. That means when you make a promise, do exactly what you promised. Do it by the deadline you promised – or sooner.
3. People trust people who have their best interests at heart. They will think you have their best interests at heart when you give them advice that benefits them as much as, or more than, it benefits you.
4. People want to do business with people who are experts in their fields. So, become an expert in your field through practice, research, training, education, and study. As you acquire that expertise, share it. Give speeches, and write articles and books. Be generous with your knowledge. Know that in doing so, you are demonstrating your expertise.
5. People feel comfortable giving money to people who are authentic and honest. (That means you must be honest, frank, ethical, and aboveboard.) Believe that telling the truth is more powerful than lying, even when the lies are mendacities by omission.
6. People are attracted to people who are attractive. You don't have to get plastic surgery, but you can eat right, exercise, dress well, and be well-groomed. And pay attention to your personal hygiene.
7. People feel better with people who seem to be "real." The best way to do that is to admit your shortcomings when they are evident. When the conversation turns to a subject about which you know next to nothing, admit it.
8. People respond to people who listen and pay attention to what they are saying. Remember the old cliché: You have two ears and one mouth because you should listen twice as much as you talk.
9. People feel comfortable with people who are like them. The trick here is to identify what you have in common with the other person. It could be golf, kids, pets, or anything else. Then use that to cement a bond between you.
10. People are attracted to people who are humble. So don't brag about your successes. You can mention them, but don't brag. If someone brings them up, downplay them. Switch the topic as soon as possible to the other person.
11. People tend to value people who are in demand. That's why you should never tell a prospective customer that things are slow and you really need his business. Think about doctors. How would you feel if you walked into a doctor's office and you were the only patient? Wouldn't you wonder how good he was? As much as you hate it when you have to sit there and wait, don't you feel more assured when a doctor's waiting room is packed? Of course you do.
12. People want to be surrounded by helpful people – people who make their lives easier and save them time. So make it a personal policy to attend to the needs of others – even when your purpose is to help yourself.
Which of these people-pleasing skills do you have already?
Congratulate yourself for acquiring them, and practice them more.
What Playboy Playmates Really Want in Men
What would it
take for you to get a date with a real life Playboy Playmate [Yeah, I know, the
magazine no longer features those airbrushed nudes]?
Not brains. Not a
sense of humor. It’s all a matter of
material goods. Here’s how many of them
decide if a man is worth their while:
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First, they look at his watch, because what a
man will spend on a watch is an indication to them of how much money he will
spend on a woman. If it’s a cheap, the
gifts will be chintzy.
·
Shoes are second because they reflect how a man
will treat a woman. If he gets his shoes
shined regularly, it means he’ll pamper his woman.
·
The quality of a man’s shirt is third because it
indicates his taste for fine things.
·
Finally, the type of car a man drives is an
indication of what kind of toys he owns and whether he’s fun during the day –
and at night.
Since we’re in the midst of the election season, polls
show that the majority of women would have a one night stand in the Oval Office
with a president they found sexually attractive!
NOTE: For those of
you who don’t already know, I was the Associate Editor of a rather brazen men’s
magazine for a number of a years…
Useful Resources
Social media has
provided us with new and fun ways to connect with people. See how you can
leverage social media to land your next job.
50 Ways to Make a Fast $50 (Money Talks News): "Facing a cash-flow problem and need to
make a quick buck? Here are 50 ways to earn extra money."
The 37 Best Hobbies That Make Money (Dope Dollar): "If you are pretty good at
a hobby, you can probably make money off it. You’re about to get a lot of
ideas on how to do just that, so keep reading."
Why No One Knows How
to Write a Check Anymore (US News): "Check
writing has become a lost art. There used to be something official about
writing a personal check that made even the most minor transactions feel more
important when you had to physically write out the recipient's name, dollar
amount and sign your name in the bottom right corner."
Making The Case For Motorcycle Commuting (Forbes): "I recently compiled a list of
the Best Cars for Commuters. Even as I was working on that list, I realized
that it held a fatal flaw. Many times, the best car for a commuter is no car at
all."
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“I am 5’5″ and if you are 5’8″ & like to wear heels
it may not work” - Part of a full-page dating ad that
a dad took out for his adult son. It was $900. He’s
reportedly still single.
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Natalie Denning first found fame in the British reality TV
series Poor Little Rich Girls and has since gone on to pose topless in many of the major
British lads mag's including Nuts,
ZOO, Loaded
and Maxim. In recent years Natalie has branched out into other types
of modelling including presenting prizes on British Gameshows such as The Price Is Right
What
the Yuck
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Yours truly!
